Without the protection of a pre-marital inventory answered separately by both parties there is a potential difficulty in distinguishing between an arranged marriage and a forced one, as the following extract from a House of Commons debate (10th July 2007) on the Forced Marriage (Civil Protection) Bill illustrates: Brooks Newmark: I still find it difficult to distinguish between forced marriage, arranged marriage, and psychological pressure. How does one define a forced marriage? As we heard earlier, many women come under enormous psychological pressure to go into a marriage. Is that a forced marriage? If not, why not? Humphrey Malins The definition in the Bill refers to force, including coercion "by threats or other psychological means", whatever that means. What about the situation where there is family pressure for an arranged marriage? Would it not be rather difficult to decide whether that meant it was a forced marriage? Brooks Newmark: That was very much the point I was trying to make at the beginning of my speech, to tease out from the Solicitor-General how she distinguishes arranged marriages where psychological pressures are created by families at home. They may not come from wealthy backgrounds, and financial pressure may be put on people to get involved in a marriage that ultimately becomes unwelcome and, in many ways, abusive."
— Nick GullifordI can give you a personal example of how the concept of arranged marriages or at least the introductory part works and how it really does boil down to the choice of the girl and the boy.
I was introduced to a prospective partner, who was related to my Mother's friend. We met and there was an initial attractione. Over the next few months we continued to meet in the presence of chapperones and communicate with one another.
However we both realised that whilst there was nothing "wrong" with the other we didn't think there was compatibility. The girl was in fact the one to refuse 1st and everyone in the respective families respected the decision because they recognised that ultimately it's the couple in question who have to spend their lives together not the introducers hence it should be the boy & girl's decision.
Had this marriage gone ahead then this would have been an arranged marriage.
If on the other pressures was exerted on wither myself or the girl then that would be called forced, which is unIslamic.