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The Missing Catalyst Print E-mail
Wednesday, 24 May 2006

In chemical reactions a catalyst is something that speeds up a reaction that could theoretically happen in the first place; the catalyst merely provides a favourable environment for it to happen.  But without the catalyst the reaction cannot go; or at best it may be very slow.

The other day I was in a situation in which I could have put some skills into practise.  A couple of my friends were assaulted (they're ok!) by some drunk muppets and despite me having taken Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu classes for some months last year I didn’t even have the guts to move forward and try and stop what was happening.

So what good did my BJJ lessons do for me?  At the end of the day martial arts and self-defence classes are for a purpose.  Yes, they provide general fitness and strength, but frankly you can get that through many other avenues.  My mistake was that, although I superficially knew that such classes could (theoretically) help me take care of myself if an altercation was inevitable, I did not visualise that or imagine that it could actually happen to me.

Well, of course this experience will put any future training into perspective a little.

I can’t really regret the past; what’s done is done and there’s always a reason behind these things.  But what I can do is analyse my actions and judge them in the light of how I would have expected myself to have reacted.

But it really led me to question myself and my principles.  I have on occasion been pushed to take a really difficult stand for my principles, and - alhamdulillah – I have emerged successful and contented in those times.  One of my principles is that of having complete reliance upon our Creator:  the quality that known as tawakkul in Islam.  According to this one fears none among the created beings when something of value is at stake to uphold.  Tawakkul is indispensable in upholding certain values and speaking a true and just word, in the face of opposition by the majority.  The majority is never a criterion for truth and justice.  If it were, humanity would never progress in any field, whether moral, ethical or scientific.

There is not much more of greater value than human life and dignity; and when your friends are being outnumbered and beaten by a bunch of cowards who are too scared to attack in a less than two-to-one ratio, I shouldn’t have a choice between standing and doing nothing and going to help them.  Such a failure is surely a defect in tawakkul.

Such a similitude can be given for many a scenario in life; certainly in mine.  It’s all about acting out what you believe in theory.  We may all believe that we are good and decent people, yet are we of those who turn a blind eye to injustice, simply because we don’t see it happening to others, even when we know it happens?

Seeing is believing, as they say.  Those with perception, with insight, can see ahead, visualise and predict scenarios before they can potentially happen.  Unfortunately people like me need to see something firsthand before doing something about it for real.

I just pray that I don’t need to see things twice before I decide to make my move!

Has the catalyst been activated?




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Readers have left 9 comments.
ali: Quote

I never wanted to say anything till I read this article, the exact same thing has happened to me more then once.

I always end up rooted like stone in fear, and then spending weeks cutting myself up, because i know i was a coward.

I feel the brother was very brave to have said this, Ive never been able to speak about it.

May Allah root out that which makes us hesistate in His Cause.

What practical steps can I take to remove this from me.
(1) 2006-05-25 10:35:31
change: Quote

Assalaamu alaikum

The reason maybe also, is you need to do full contact. Full contact means when you sparr, there's no holding on punches on you when you train.

By doing so, that takes away fear and secondly, gives you a chance to use your skills. I understand what the bro is saying, and yes I've been in such a situation but I been mashed up for helping out twice until I trained, and now, know what to do.

Martial arts is a preparation, and it's thought process is you are ALWAYS prepared. Insha-Allah you can now learn from this because one thing I do want to say, and I am not trying to be harsh on you (author of the article) but I rather be beaten a hundred times than walk away from helping someone in street, Muslim or Non Muslim.

Now, I ain't scared of punches on face, or whatever the outcome. I just don't want to be cursed by the All Mighty because I walked away due to cowardness and I wouldn't want to walk with a bro if I know that's what he's going to do.

Alhamdillah it took guts writing what you wrote but please now, get it sorted. One day you are needed. Even when I didn't do martail arts, I still fought back, because u lose your dignity with yourself (forget other people) then you lost everything.

Get it sorted Insha-Allah, and start practising now for the real reason and in the right mental attitude and keep focus at all times.

Wassalaam
(2) 2006-05-25 12:19:31
Raja Saab: Quote

Brothers

This is a very important topic. We need to ask ourselves how is that non-Muslims without 'Imaan' are able to stand in the way of danger without a care.

I think its more that just trust in Allah, because at the time of an altercation - your instincts take over.

Therefore, the key is to try and inculcate fearlessness into your instincts.

From experience, the only way to really do this is to have combat experience. In other words, as well as learning a martial art - you should enter competitions or at the very least participate in competitve sparring sessions with colleagues - this will help build your confidence.

Take a few knocks here and there (bloody noses and bruises recommended) and you'll realise its not all that bad Inshallah.
(3) 2006-05-25 13:19:21
Saddened reader: Quote

You should keep a mobile phone with you at all times and phone the police immediately on the emergency number if anyone attacks your friends. Also, you could get a personal alarm. Perhaps, try and stay away from dangerous,isolated areas away from the public gaze where possible unless in groups.

Apparently, Bruce Lee used to do Jeet Kune Do. Perhaps, you and your friends could take lessons in this ? It seems to have worked for him. Also, apparently Judo uses the attacker's weight, size and strength against him and no matter how big or small someone is, they are supposed to be able to protect themselves using Judo. There are also certain points in the body such as the solar plexus, part of the nose, the throat that people are advised to go for if trying to defend themselves when attacked. They were mentioned by Sandra Bullock's character on a talk on self-defence in the film, Miss Congeniality.

Try not to beat yourself up for being scared. Anyone would be afraid in that situation when they've got a bunch of drunken yobs attacking them in a big group. It's not as if you didn't want to help. You were probably paralysed by fear as many people would be if they were in that situation.

The people who violently attack others and harm them for no reason are the ones with the problem, not law-abiding, peaceful citizens like you.
(4) 2006-05-25 22:19:25
Mohsin: Quote

Aslaam Alkium

Its all about Self confidence, and willingness to take RISKS. When you fear from a certain action or commitment, it simply reflects that your level of self confidence isnt strong enough to overcome that particular challenge.

Sports can help develop your self confidence. You have to understand one thing, when people are drunk, it gives them that false sense of self confidence, not emtionally feeling the possible fear. Its why you probably noticed, lol, especially here in the UK, its always held, a person most often speaks the truth when he/she is drunk.



Body and mind are both interlinked. For a Strong MIND the pre-requisite is a STRONG body. A Strong MIND will then overcome any adversity and be less fearful towards it .

Train your Body via Sports, and you keep your MIND tough and strong. I used to suffer from alot of low self esteem and self confidence. However, I started to do alot of Weight training, which helped me alot in the past 10 years.

If your well built up, your physically and mentally strong, a person will always think "3" times or more shall I or shall I not .

Marital Arts, is very good for confidence and concentration measures. But I love my Dumbells in the gym, lol

Waslaam
(5) 2006-05-25 22:25:34
Raashid: Quote

Weakness does seem to be an Asiatic trait - my people the Bengalis resisted British rule through poetry and arts! We need to take a few lessons from our more durable Anglo and Caribbean brothers.
(6) 2006-05-26 09:31:46
Curious Bengali reader: Quote

Poetry and the arts are good!Fighting- not so good unless in self-defence! I know Bengalis have a thing with the arts but that's no bad thing! Literary nobel prize winner Rabindranath Tagore is far more famous for his poetry than any fist fights he might have got into. Satyajit Ray may not have been a fighter but he's far more respected as an oscar winning film-maker than he would have been if he had been a street fighter! I'm not sure but I think Ravi Shankar might be Bengali as well. Far better to make beautiful music than be a thug surely!

These artists and writers have more influence and respect than any street fighting lout anyday so when it comes to poetry and the arts- don't knock 'em!
(7) 2006-05-26 22:58:36
Mohsin: Quote

Ali

Read about , Prophets, Muslim and non muslim leaders, about War time heros, Hazart Ali, Salahadin, boxers,. Read about people who "Attempted the impossible" in this world. Find out what are their personal characteristics and traits, and then imitate what you can possibly do. Even simply reading this stuff, inshallah, you will feel inspirational.

Find out exactly in yourself, what are the gaps in your strength and confidence.

Expose your mind, around competitive sports. And remember every human being in this world, has insecurities and weaknesses. The only difference is that some have overcome them, some can easily disguise them, so as a result you may find it hard to identify what are the weaknesses of a person who is acting so brave and with confidence.

In my opinon, start with Weights, build up your physique, first and foremost. Get stronger, then divert into other sports.

Waslaam
(8) 2006-05-27 00:11:04
fiaraz: Quote

rationality and emotion are two different things, we train rationally contemplatingthe effect of weights, boxing and martial arts. Here in bradford we grew up in violence.. you either develop the urge to destroy your oponent with complete disregard for yourself, it is a switch, you can do all the martial arts youwant in the world and all the weights. This attitude that asians are weak, or incapable of violence then please feel fre to visit myhome town. get over your self centred thoughts about what will happen to you. relish the opportunity to truly hurt the racist scum that choose to attack our childdren and argue it all you want the BNP etc do attatck children under the age of 18 and those of us who are not trained for violence.in short, what to do? change your attitude to getting hurt. its all about the animal inside us.
(9) 2006-05-30 09:50:37
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