1. Stop touching your nose every so often. It's blatant body language and both you and I know it that means.

Could someone please fill me in on what touching your nose means?...is it one of those secret signals...I think there bigger issues than whethe4r someone smiles,,lighten up..

Clearly the muslim brother/sister from Canada has a very small incling as to what happens outside his own country, Canada may be well cultured but here in Britain we are victimized and if he is eluding what happens around the world then he has very small knowledge and understanding of Islam

Yes, I know it sounds silly I can understand where he is coming from.



1. Do not stand too close when you are shaking someone's hand because you are being too dominant and too eager. This will also show, that you do not respect the person's space. Give them their space.

2. In interviews, Mirror sometimes the interviewee or if you are talking to someone in street or after a meeting - mirror their action a little.

When you get along with someone, you mirror them and they feel at ease. One thing you don't do, and DO NOT MIORROR is when they pat you on the back, do not pat them back on the back.

They do this ONLY to empower themselves, to say, "you are in my house, in my world, and I am in power." Let them have their little time of self satisfaction for now. Watch how Bush does it to say, "Hey, I am the boss." He pushes them forward before he walks in front because he is saying, "you're in my terroitory now, my land, my house, my world."

3. The fidgeting part are part of the nervous attitude and it reflects this. One must sit, with back straight. remember, the spine goes all the way to the head, so make the head not droop but forward, straight and do not look down. Keep sometimes eye contact.

4. Smile and laugh but not too much because this shows you saying, "They are thick" or, "Jeesh, what is this guy on. What a stupid question?" Be serious most of the time in interviews and laugh only when they laugh. Be in control, show posture.

5. Shaking hands - I have seen many Muslims do this and it is pathetic. When you shake someone's hand, do not let go but feel their grip let go and then push your hand backwards.

You do open your grip first or your handshake is too weak or too strong, and you let go before they open their fingers first, then you are disrespecting and you will lose the business deal or cause them to think you don't give a damn about them anyway.

Many shake brothers hand in a weak way and you can tell it is not genuine. Body language can say a lot.

6. Nod when they are talking. Take interest when they speak. Even better, LISTEN not HEAR. They are two different things. LISTEN and ask questions towards the sentence they give and it shows, you are LISTENING and not just nodding like some dog on a car that nodds back and forth.

7. Lean forward when they talk but NOT too much. Leaning a little forward shows that you are interested in what they are saying.

It also shows you are confident, self assured. But if you lean too much then it shows you are desperate, too eager, needy.

8. When someone shouts your name, do not snap your head straight away. But turn slowly. Walk slowly but strong, like a leader and you are going somewhere.

9. Do not scratch face, touch face, touch nose, due to nervousness but INSTEAD, use your hands as you communicate. Express and keep calm. By keeping calm you can still show passion but it shows leadership, it shows confidence and it also shows the level you are at even if someone tries to hit us with stupid questions or on an attacking mode.

10. Body language is a language. You can talk to me brothers but those who are skilled at body language always check not on your words too much. Yes, they do listen but they listen MORE on your Non-Verbal language.

It's like, when you chat to someone, and then you see them turn their wrist and look at their watch, THAT'S body language. S signal there for you.

A) the guy is bored with your conversation.

B) He is busy and needs to be somewhere.

C) And if you are a bank manager and he comes to you for help, then God help him. he just lost the deal, there and then.

This is good because you need to know this when working especially within the Media world and Politics.

id much prefer it if one actually understood the nuances of the comments and questions so that an appropriate answer may be given.

these days the interviewers tend to have a language body and verbal that is all of their own but crucially understood by their regular viewers.

learn to use their language to get your point across, even if it means using familiar terms that are used in one context eg pro israel zionist government policy against palestinians to express the opposite viewpoint ie pro palestinian anti israeli zionist government
policy

@wendy mann

I agree.

If you want the Chinese public to understand you, then better speak good Chinese, and get the nuances right. Otherwise the hearer(s) will spend too much time watching your hand movements/gestures and miss the crucial point you are making; also you will sound 'alien' and the hearer(s) will think of you as 'not us'.

As a friend of MPACUK I would humbly point out to Asghar that he needs to cut right back on hand movements. And pls also try to remember that hand gesture should precede the words (try it out: (1) say the word 'there!' and THEN point with your finger; (2)now point with your finger FIRST and follow immediately by saying the word 'there!'. -- you see the difference in effect right away)